Media Release
15/3/17

 

White Ribbon welcomes family violence changes

White Ribbon Committee Chair Cam Ronald welcomes the changes to the family violence system, and commends all those who have been advocating and providing evidence to help ensure New Zealand’s response to violence continues to improve.

“Having laws and systems that respond effectively and consistently to incidents of violence is one of the key factors of violence prevention,” says Mr Ronald.

The three new offences of strangulation, coercion to marry, and assault on a family member, all ensure the law is keeping pace with modern society and putting into practice, the evidence from years of research.

White Ribbon is pleased to see that changes that allow a third party to apply on a victim’s behalf and welcomes this response as a move to ensure better protection of vulnerable children. The recognition that offending while on a Protection Order is an aggravating factor in sentencing, (likely to lead to a more serious sentence), further ensures that Protection Orders have real consequences when broken and strengthens an area that was criticised as too weak.

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“However, we must not forget that the legal system only comes into play after violence has occurred,” says Mr Ronald. “White Ribbon believes it is in our best interests of New Zealand to undertake more primary prevention work, as it is this approach which can prevent violence from occurring in the first place and the constant need for more ambulances at the bottom of the cliff”.

This primary prevention need was recently demonstrated by a number of boys in two Wellington schools, where attitudes associated with what is known as ‘rape culture’ became public.

“Laws, and their effective enforcement, can reduce the amount of violence to a certain extent,” says Mr Ronald, “but it is a focus on changing social norms, particularly around gender equity and gender roles, that will really reduce the remaining violence and could have prevented the actions of these Wellington school boys.

“It is these attitudes, that left unchecked or unchallenged, develop into behaviour that condones violence.”

An example that relates to a legal response might be where smoking rates were reduced when smoking was outlawed in public places and or the increased cost of cigarettes. However it was campaigns that focused on the health of children, or living long enough to be grandparents, that got the message across that ‘people like me do not smoke’.

White Ribbon Riders look tough but speak about respectful relationships

This is where campaigns such as White Ribbon, It’s Not OK and other initiatives are so important.

“White Ribbon would like to see a similar priority given to the prevention work of campaigns that target social norms and attitudes, says Mr Ronald. “This, alongside adequate funding for services that are currently stretched by responding to increased reporting, would give a truly comprehensive approach. That would really make a difference and it would help to reduce New Zealand’s unacceptable level of violence”.

 

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For Interviews contact:

White Ribbon Committee Chair
Cam Ronald
021 645 5155

White Ribbon Researcher and Ambassador
Garth Baker
027 357 7901

Richie Hardcore talks about Porn

White Ribbon Ambassador Richie Hardcore talks about porn on Newstalk ZB. Click HERE to listen.

We need parents and especially dads to step up and start talking to their boys about respectful relationships and respectful sexual relationships. The behaviour within Wellington College and St Patricks Silverstream highlights that boys don’t understand what respectful sexual behaviour is, and that there’s more that fathers can do.

Research commissioned last year by White Ribbon New Zealand found that Kiwi dads rarely discuss the importance of consent and knowing when it is OK or not OK to engage in sexual activity with someone with their teenage sons.

Kiwis might not want to hear this, but rape culture is embedded in most of our high schools and universities – any student will tell you this.

If young men are not receiving good information from their dads (and parents), then they look to their peers, media, movies, the internet and pornography for clues on how to behave.

Many schools are trying to get this information to their students through programmes such as Mates and Dates or Loves Me Not programme and by participating with the White Ribbon Campaign, but as a society we have to do more, and that means dads talking to their sons.

During interviews with men in 2015 we learnt that fathers were uncomfortable talking to their sons about respectful sexual relationships. To find out more we commissioned Research New Zealand to discover what topics fathers were comfortable talking to their sons and daughters about.

Kiwi dads said they least ‘regularly’ discuss the importance of consent and knowing when it is OK or not OK to engage in sexual activity with someone with their teenage sons. 22% said they regularly discuss this, compared with 66% who regularly discussed ‘doing well at school’.

These findings are concerning, because our sons want and need to hear this information from their dads (and parents). If dads don’t talk to their sons, they will go elsewhere and get their information from less reputable sources such as pornography.

Year 9 students suspended from St Patrick’s College Silverstream for inappropriate filming of female staff

Pornography typically shows aggression against women and it intensifies sexist and violence-supportive attitudes and behaviours, as well as increasing sexually aggressive behaviour. Fathers need to counter this with positive talk about consent and showing respect. Research shows that children are being exposed at younger ages to pornography.

White Ribbon Richie Hardcore was exposed to pornography at a young age and now in his 30s he recognises just how harmful pornography is. Listen to Richie talk about the issue here.

White Ribbon also wants to give kiwi dads the confidence and skills to talk about respectful relationships and respectful sexual relationships with their sons. To facilitate this we have created a toolbox for dads and young men. The Start with Respect toolbox gives suggestions to young men on how to have a respectful sexual relationship. We have also created short videos that focus on the top five tips for dads featuring Richie and former All White Harry Ngata. These can be downloaded here.

Download the Toolbox

The research also found that dads with a teenage daughter were twice as likely to ‘regularly’ discuss the importance of consent and knowing when it is OK or not OK to engage in sexual activity with someone with their daughter, than their teenage son.

There is classic double standard with daughters. Dads often want to protect their daughters and therefore have conversations with the aim of keeping them safe. But when it comes to their sons, dads too often think boys will be boys and lack the confidence and skills to have what are vital conversations.

We can’t expect girls to take all the responsibility for their sexual safety; we need to teach our boys to behave respectfully and legally.

As men we can influence the attitudes and behaviour of our sons by talking about, and demonstrating respectful relationships. This emphasises the values and behaviours we want instead of violence and sexual violence.

 

 

 

White Ribbon supports progress of the Domestic Violence – Victims’ Protection Bill.

“This bill helps to address the needs of victims in the workplace as they deal with the effects of violence,” says Cam Ronald, Chair of the White Ribbon Committee.

“While violence often occurs in the home, the impacts of that violence are often felt at work with absenteeism, reduced productivity, and in some cases, the violence forces the victim to quit work.”

White Ribbon is working with businesses to assist them in developing workplaces which are safe from family violence, that will support victims to become survivors and encourage other businesses to demonstrate their support for ending violence in New Zealand.

“We know that together we can reduce violence, and that is why we have launched White Ribbon Accreditation for businesses and organisations. Last November, The Warehouse became the first accredited organisation following their introduction of domestic violence leave and domestic violence training for staff.

“We believe there is a sea change in New Zealand and businesses have begun to understand, that not only does domestic violence hurt the bottom line (profits), but they also have a responsibility as good corporate citizens to become part of the anti-violence solution,” says Mr Ronald

“Providing domestic violence leave is one of many things that a business can undertake to ensure the safety and productivity of their workforce. White Ribbon encourages businesses to get in contact with us if they would like to know how else they can help to reduce family violence.”

For further information on the White Ribbon Accreditation programme email contact@whiteribbon.org.nz

New Research – Fathers don’t talk to their sons about respectful behaviour to women

Research commissioned by White Ribbon New Zealand has found that Kiwi dads rarely discuss the importance of consent and knowing when it is OK or not OK to engage in sexual activity with someone with their teenage sons.

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Garth Baker

“During interviews with men in 2015 we learnt that fathers were uncomfortable talking to their sons about respectful sexual relationships,” says White Ribbon Researcher Garth Baker. “To find out more we commissioned Research New Zealand to discover what topics fathers were comfortable talking to their sons and daughters about.”

Kiwi dads said they least ‘regularly’ discuss the importance of consent and knowing when it is OK or not OK to engage in sexual activity with someone with their teenage sons. 22% said they regularly discuss this, compared with 66% who regularly discussed ‘doing well at school’.

Compared with other topics, this was the one that fathers were least comfortable discussing.

“These findings are concerning,” says Mr Baker “because our sons want and need to hear this information from their dads (and parents). If dads don’t talk to their sons, they will learn from peers, media and pornography.”

Pornography typically shows aggression against women and it intensifies sexist and violence-supportive attitudes and behaviours, as well as increasing sexually aggressive behaviour. Fathers need to counter this with positive talk about consent and showing respect. Research shows that children are being exposed at younger ages to pornography.

toolbox-buttonWhite Ribbon wants to give kiwi dads the confidence and skills to talk about respectful relationships and respectful sexual relationships with their sons. To facilitate this we have created a toolbox for dads and short videos that focus on the top five tips for dads. These can be downloaded at https://whiteribbon.org.nz/toolbox/

The research also found that Dads with a teenage daughter were twice as likely to ‘regularly’ discuss the importance of consent and knowing when it is OK or not OK to engage in sexual activity with someone with their daughter, than their teenage son.

“There is classic double standard with daughters. Dads often want to protect their daughters and therefore have conversations with the aim of keeping them safe. But when it comes to their sons, dads too often think boys will be boys and lack the confidence and skills to have what are vital conversations.

“We can’t expect girls to take all the responsibility for their sexual safety; we need to teach our boys to behave respectfully and legally.

“As men we can influence the attitudes and behaviour of our sons by talking about, and demonstrating respectful relationships. This emphasises the values and behaviours we want instead of violence and sexual violence,” says Mr Baker.

 

wtr8728-white-ribbon-richie-hardcore-harry-ngata-storyboard-4k-frame-2Five top actions for fathers:

  1. Role model respectful behaviour. Show you respect your partner as an equal and communicate respectfully.
  2. Be actively involved in raising your kids. This makes them better people and makes you a better person too.
  3. Start developing their respectful behaviour early and adjust to their development.
  4. Talk about respect as a behaviour. Describe what they can do to show respect.
  5. Know they’ll appreciate learning from you. Kids typically want more sex education than they get.

 

KEY STATISTICS

  • One in three women will experience partner violence at some point in their lives
  • Less than 20 percent of abuse cases are reported
  • Approximately 3,500 convictions are recorded against men each year for assaults on women
  • On average, 14 women a year are killed by their partners or ex-partners
  • Police attend over 100,000 family violence incidents a year – one every 5 minutes
  • Family violence accounts for half of all reported serious crime

KEY WHITE RIBBON MESSAGES

  • Say yes to respectful relationships and no to violence towards women
  • Respectful relationships require equality, communication and consent
  • Violence is not just physical
  • Men are part of the solution
  • You can help fix this problem by taking The Pledge to stand up, speak out and act to prevent men’s violence towards women and talking to your children

    For Interviews:
    Garth Baker
    White Ribbon Researcher and White Ribbon Ambassador
    0273577901
    garthbaker@xtra.co.nz

     

    NAVY DIVERS SHINE A LIGHT ON NZDF’S PLEDGE DURING WHITE RIBBON WEEK

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    Royal New Zealand Navy divers Pumau Campbell, left, from Tauranga, and Trevor Strickland, from Hawke’s Bay, with a New Zealand Defence Force White Ribbon torch at Stanley Bay in Auckland. Two torches have been created to shine a light on NZDF’s commitment to stop violence against women.

     

    NAVY DIVERS SHINE A LIGHT ON NZDF’S PLEDGE DURING WHITE RIBBON WEEK

    Last night, a New Zealand Defence Force White Ribbon torch, carried by Royal New Zealand Navy divers and assisted by New Zealand Police, passed through Auckland on its way to Wellington to signify NZDF’s commitment to the White Ribbon pledge.

    Royal New Zealand Navy divers Pumau Campbell and Trevor Strickland emerged from the water at Stanley Bay with the New Zealand Defence Force White Ribbon torch at the start of a journey to highlight the White Ribbon message of respectful relationships.

    Two torches, commissioned by the Chief of Defence Force and White Ribbon Ambassador, Lieutenant General Tim Keating, have been created to shine a light on NZDF’s commitment to stop violence against women.

    The torches are scheduled to stop in different locations this week to show  the NZDF’s commitment to the White Ribbon pledge. They will return to Wellington to feature in the NZDF and Police challenge run through the streets of the central business district, led by Lieutenant General Keating and Police Commissioner Mike Bush, on Friday at midday.

    “As a White Ribbon Ambassador I’m proud of the efforts made by our Defence Force to raise awareness of the White Ribbon cause and to help curb violence against women,” Lieutenant General Keating said.

    “We need to show leadership, not just within the NZDF but to the wider community. I am determined that we will do that – starting within our own organisation.”

    In 2015 the NZDF introduced a mental health helpline for all NZDF personnel and their families, to address some of the stressors that can trigger violence towards women, as well as a range of other challenges that NZDF personnel and their families might be confronting.

    Then, earlier this year, the NZDF launched Operation Respect, the culmination of two years work to tackle inappropriate and harmful sexual behaviour in the force. That included creating a professional sexual assault response team and introducing a confidential disclosure system to provide an alternative way to report sexual assault.

    “When I became a White Ribbon Ambassador I was keen to find ways for the Defence Force to make a tangible contribution to this cause,” Lieutenant General Keating said.

    “Through Operation Respect we are committed to do everything possible  to get rid of inappropriate and harmful sexual behaviour in the armed forces.

    “We want the military to be a more welcoming, engaging and safe environment for women.”

    The torches will arrive in Wellington on Friday and will feature at the White Ribbon ceremony in the capital that day. After that one will be held in Wellington by NZDF and the other will be presented to New Zealand Police.

     

    Domestic violence support services

    • If you are in immediate danger,call 111 and ask for the police.
    • Women’s Refuge’s 24-hour Crisisline on 0800 REFUGE or 0800 733 843 anywhere in the country.
    • If you’re experiencing or witnessing violence call 0800 456 450 for information about services that can help. 7 days a week, 9am to 11pm.
    • Young people experiencing or witnessing violence can call 0800 456 450 for information about services that can help. 7 days a week, 9am to 11pm.
    • For lesbian gay, bisexual, transgender relationships see http://www.kahukura.co.nz/information/need-help/
    • http://areyouok.org.nz/
    • Rape Crisis’s 24-hour helpline on 0800 883300.
    • For information on local sexual violence services see http://toah-nnest.org.nz/get-help/find-help
    • Call 0800 456 450 for information about services if you want to change your behaviour. 7 days a week, 9am to 11pm.

    Church leader appointed White Ribbon Ambassador, calls on churches to support campaign

    the-right-rev-ray-coster-moderator-of-the-presbyterian-church-smallWhite Ribbon’s newest ambassador is calling on churches to support the campaign opposing violence towards women.

    New ambassador the Very Reverend Ray Coster of Mount Manganui, is a former national leader of the Presbyterian Church of Aotearoa who recently retired after 39 years of parish ministry. Ray is on the international World Council of Churches committee as the representative for New Zealand member churches, he is also the Chair of the NZ Board of the International Christian Blind Mission.

    During his nearly four decades as a Presbyterian minister – providing church-goers and people within the community with pastoral advice and support – he found that helping to move relationships to become more respectful take times. “Changing men’s attitudes and behaviour towards women can be done, but it does require modelling compassion and patience.”

    Ray says that churches have many opportunities in their work and engagement with their communities to promote concepts of positive masculinity which support gender justice.

    Cam Ronald, White Ribbon Committee Chair, welcomes Ray as a White Ribbon ambassador. “White Ribbon is about connecting with kiwi men and promoting respectful behaviour. Ray has considerable experience of doing exactly that. His experience as a leader will help him stand up and speak out, which is just what ambassadors need to do.”

    Cam says churches have an important role to play in helping to eliminate men’s violence towards women through the significant influence they have in their communities. “Preventing violence requires communities to clearly reject violence and to emphasis their respectful values. Faith-based communities can do this as they connect with many different people and are about positive, peaceful values”.

    The Presbyterian Church has long been committed to supporting the White Ribbon campaign and each year many of its churches take part in events aimed at educating about how to prevent and stop violence against women.

    During this November, White Ribbon month, Presbyterian parishes north and south will hold events to promote White Ribbon Day in their communities.

    Captain’s Log – South Island White Ribbon Ride

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    Captains Log 17.11.16

    White Ribbon Ride South Island kicked off today with Southern and Northern riders meeting up in Picton.  Riders from both islands have battled adverse weather conditions ranging from light showers to torrential rain, snow, floods.  We were welcomed on to the beautiful Waikawa Marae located just out of Picton township where we are overnighting.  Tomorrow looks to be fine and sunny for us to begin attending our scheduled events.

    White Ribbon Ride 2016……bring it on!
    Colin

    Captains Log 18/11/16

    A full on day starting at 5.30 am when a rider (who shall remain nameless), had everybody up and awake at 5:30 am.  Thanks Mr McKenzie. Ooops!

    Our first official event for 2016 got off to a fine start at Marlborough Boys College where we were given a grand welcome and  treated to a breakfast of bacon and egg butties and hot coffee.

    We then went to Nelson College and were moved by a beautiful haka. Immediately after we then went to Nelson Intermediate where they also performed their school haka. When we left the students formed a guard of honour for us to ride through.

    A couple of riders have had mechanical problems that are visiting a local bike shop. Some locals have loaned us a couple of bikes for the riders to carry on with.

    We were welcomed onto Te Awhina Marae and were treated to a wonderful meal by the local Waimea Soroptimists Jill and Jill. We really appreciate the support form the Soroptimists. I’ve already had to extend my belt by a notch.

    The riders are currently relaxing as we face a big ride tomorrow down the West Coast to Hokitika.
    Colin

    Pete and I have again joined the White Ribbon ride this year. The last time was 2014 as we couldn’t make it last year. It has been great to catch up the team and meet new riders.

    It was a bit of an early start today, but at least Colin couldn’t growl for us being late. It was a refreshing ride from Picton through to Blenheim, where we had a great breakfast – bacon, eggs, sausages, buns at Marlborough Boys High. Definitely saw us through the day. Apart from one bike breaking down and having to be trailered to Nelson, we had a great ride. We traveled up Trafalgar St and onto Nelson College. We received a warm welcome and had some fun with the students. It was the first time that we had been there and they would like us back next year. After having a chat with them, they performed the college haka which was amazing to watch – so much power and dedication by the boys. From here we traveled to Nelson Intermediate. We received another warm welcome and Blair gave a good speech to the students about his life. We were also presented with a haka which was in competition with the boys college. The students then formed a guard of honour for us all to ride through, and it was amazing. We then stopped at Zumos for a coffee. On the way to Motueka, another bike decided to give up the ghost, but we got it to the shop to keep the first bike company. We continued on to be greeted at the Te Awhina Marae. A wonderful meal was supplied to us by Waimea soroptmists. We have certainly received great support from all communities.

    We are now relaxing as we have a long ride tomorrow and the weather may be changing. I guess nothing unusual for the West Coast….
    Nicola and Peter McKenzie

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    Captains Log 19/11/16

    Another early start when another rider who shall not remain nameless ( Graeme ), had everyone up a whole hour before they needed to be.  At least we got away in good time and managed to miss any rain on our journey down the coast.  Great ride through the Buller Gorge …made for motorcycles!

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    Lunch break at Broadway Tea rooms in Reefton where White Ribbon Riders were treated to a magnificent feast. Thank you to the ladies there for preparing all this delicious food.

    The Broadway Tea Rooms in Reefton provided us with a sumptuous array of food for lunch, and many of the locals and visitors to the town stopped to chat and to check out the bikes. Back on the road again we kept up a steady pace to get us to Hokitika on time for the scheduled event at Crass Square in Hokitika where the ladies from the Westland Soroptmists had organised a “Walk the Talk” event.  The local college First XV team lead a walk around the square and what  a fine bunch of young men they are.  With music, face painting and a barbeque the place was humming.

    Riders had a little time to spare before our next event, so we caught up on some shopping, (the ladies)  opossum slippers being the number one choice.

    OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAShrek had a mini meltdown when he couldn’t find his phone. He had visions of it being left somewhere, or it dropping on to the road from his pocket.  When asked if he had checked his pockets thoroughly he was adamant that yes he had, twice in fact but he checked again.  When he was asked what did it look like  he looked rather sheepish and said “like this one” and produced it from a pocket that he obviously missed.  Were going to get a lot of mileage out of that one.

    Our evening meal was provided by the Westland Soroptmists ladies and no one could complain of being hungry!  What a feast! Big thank-you to Rayleen,  Nicole,  Jo, Sue, Chris, and Amanda we really appreciate your help and support.
    Colin

    Captains Log 20/11/16

    002Torrential rain overnight in Hokitika had everyone gearing up for a wet ride this morning. However the clouds parted,  and after the obligatory West Coast  Whitebait Pattie Breakfast we headed off to make our way to Wanaka.

    A good riding day although the wind was a problem from Franz Joseph through to Haast, making it hard riding for many.  At every stop we attracted a lot of attention from tourists and locals alike, so although we did not have any official  events to attend, we were still flying the White Ribbon Flag, answering questions, and posing for photographs.

    15181388_10154741122374921_3732792835262256177_nA compulsory stop at Haast Gate ( Hells Gate) for photos and a rest stop.

    Weather forecast isn’t looking too bad either!
    Colin

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    Amber here.

    I can not express how much I am enjoying this ride!

    The ride today from Graymouth to Haast was very windy. I had to slow down and let many past so I could cruse at my own speed. But once we left Haast,…… well…… I have never enjoyed riding so much in my life! I still can’t get the stupid smile off my face!

    I am blown away by the reception we receive from people everywhere we go. We are being approached by so many asking where we are off to, what the ribbons mean, and then there are the ones that recognise the ribbon and just want to thank us for spreading the message.

    The people on the ride are all amazing, and I feel we are doing the cause proud!

    I will be back next year with bells on! And if that means I actually need to put bells on….. I WILL!!!

    Cheers,
    Amber.

     

    Captains Log 21/11/16

    The day started with a visit to Wanaka school where we were once again welcomed in style.

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    Colin, Libby and daughter Amber

    Wind has been the biggest problem today, however everyone has managed to handle the conditions.  The ride over the Crown Range was stunning, but again very windy.  Rain threatened off and on for most of the day but never really eventuated.

    A short stop at the  Cardrona  Hotel had  all the cameras out and clicking madly before we headed to Invercargill

    We made a late arrival for a short notice event at the Warehouse in Invercargill where many of the locals were intrigued with the bikes and spent a while talking bikes and White Ribbon.

    Its always heart-warming when so many people know about White Ribbon and express  their support.

    Colin

     

     

    Captain’s Log Day 5  22 November 2016

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    We awoke to a glorious morning in Invercargill after good night’s rest at Toimairangi Marae, which is a wee haven of Nga Puhi in the middle of Invercargill.  We  had a good run through Central Otago to Gore,  Miller’s Flat, then Alexandra.  Sweeping curvy roads and not much traffic.  The landscape changed from the towering craggy mountain terrain of the Southern Lakes District, to the wide sweeping rocky vistas of Central Otago.

     

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    First stop was Gore where we were hosted by Women’s Refuge.  Hannah talked to us about the Million Star Campaign, which is an anti violence campaign.  Hannah and the other ladies showed us how to make eight pointed stars which will be sent to the Gold Coast to make up the million stars which will be used to make one enormous star for the Commonwealth Games.

     

    Next stop Miller’s Flat School where we were welcomed with a hearty waiata a ringa from the children who were very excited to see the motorbikes.  Koro Moari returned the favour and Eru and Tiki talked to the children about the White Ribbon Campaign and then we were fed and watered (again) before we were off to our last stop for the day at Alexandra School.  More excitement from the children again,  and Animal was the definite favourite.  Alexandra School is part of their Positive Behaviour For Learning initiative.  Eru and Makz talked to the children about bullying and the White Ribbon Campaign.  The children got to sit on the bikes and give them a good rev up!  Eru took the Principal for a blat, yet another cuppa, then we were off to the camp ground which was a welcome reprieve as the temperature skyrocketed.

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