Winter Solstice White Ribbon New Zealand Art Auction: Ocean Fairytale

Why do I want to end violence towards women?

Dila Tawn Pretty Fish by Junel Santos and Tennille Salerno

Dila Tawn

I believe that it can be very easy to live and act from fear and anger. I also believe that each and every person is worthy of being treated with love and respect.

I want to share that there is another way, a way that may feel strange, difficult and unfamiliar to many of us but will lead to feeling freedom, love, joy and peace.

I want to support all the brave men who have the courage to step up and take responsibility for their own emotions and actions, respect themselves and in turn honour the women around them.

I want to encourage and remind women that all the love, beauty and strength they seek is already inside them. When you learn to love and honour yourself, you will inspire people around you to treat you well too.

We treat people the way we treat ourselves. When there is only fear, anger and frustration in us, we hurt the ones we love and we hurt ourselves.

When we do not know how to love, forgive and encourage ourselves, people around us will not know how to respect us.

Love is in all of us. No matter what we have done, each breath is a new one. Every second is a fresh chance: full of the choice we can make to stop, breathe, think, understand, be kind to ourselves, be grateful for our loved ones (even if they are sometimes hard to love), and the beauty that is around us. Feel love and feel loved and let it come from inside us and let it overflow onto the people around us.

“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”  – Victor Hugo (Les Misérables)

Winter Solstice White Ribbon New Zealand Art Auction: Ocean Fairytale

by Dila Tawn Pretty Fish

Ocean Fairytale

Ocean Fairytale

I am so proud to call New Zealand my new home. I have moved countries in search of the ocean. Finding surfing has helped me find art again. It inspired me to make surfboards beautiful, join a 100-days project (
http://100daysproject.co.nz/project/2013/390
) to improve my painting, and use my work to contribute to causes I believe in. (I could try to sing and get you to pay me to stop)

I believe in White Ribbon because I believe that violence and making someone your victim comes from fear, and there is a better way.

Let us show our support for the men who are so brave and courageous to show up and be responsible for their actions and are man enough to treat women and girls with respect.

Let us show our support for women and girls everywhere, and encourage them to embrace their inner mermaid: the part in each of us that has always been smart, strong, brave, confident, beautiful, free, loved and joyful. Feeling brave to feel connected to nature and one another, and follow our hearts, dream our dreams, and make them come true.

To show your support, bid on the original painting, or buy a print, or download a free copy.

Invite your friends and family to this event to celebrate brave men and women, our beautiful ocean, and help end violence towards women.

Big Love and Thank You,
Dila Tawn Pretty Fish
http://www.iloveprettyfish.com
 
  • Place your bid here:
  • The original painting (acrylic on A3 300gsm art paper) is up for auction on TradeMe. The winning bidder will get to choose the type of framing (included).
  • Auction ends at 10pm Auckland Time this Friday 21st June 2013
  • 100% of profits from the auction are going to White Ribbon New Zealand.
  • High quality art prints (A3) are available for 100 NZD each on TradeMe here
  • Free postage worldwide
  • 5NZD from each sale is also going to White Ribbon New Zealand.
  • A free PDF download of Ocean Fairytale is available when you sign up for free email updates at www.iloveprettyfish.com (Promise no spam!!)
  • Face Book events page

 

Place your bid here:
http://www.trademe.co.nz/Browse/Listing.aspx?id=605267635

Buy a print here:
http://www.trademe.co.nz/Browse/Listing.aspx?id=605270742&ed=true

Face Book events page:
https://www.facebook.com/events/152345188290013/

 

STOP VIOLENCE IN KAEO RALLY

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STOP VIOLENCE IN KAEO RALLY

Saturday 22 June from 11am – 2pm at the Kaeo Union Church Hall

Join the township of Kaeo for a Family Day and Fund Raiser for the Kaeo’s Junior Netball teams with speeches, face painting, bands, a sausage sizzle and refreshments. “It’s also an opportunity we are taking to talk about family violence and the violence against our whānau, family and women,” says Hillary Sheard, one of the local organisers.

Hillary Sheard - Kaeo

Hillary Sheard

“Decisions determine destiny, and in our community we need to take the right decisions to end the violence which is destroying lives. That means taking personal responsibility to end the violence of all the members of our community.

“We all have women and children in our lives, and that’s why we are partnering with the White Ribbon Riders who are riding in to support our efforts to draw attention to the violence and our hope that we can find a solution.

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Join the White Ribbon Riders at the event

“White Ribbon asks you to take the pledge to never commit condone or remain silent about violence towards women. You can do this by wearing a white ribbon and showing that you will not condone violent behaviour.

“We know that most people in our community are not violent, but we all know people who are. They can be members of your family, your sports team or your workmates. We are saying that’s it’s not ok to stand by while others are violent. It is our responsibility to take action. That decision to stand up and be counted will determine the destiny of our community.

“Join us on Saturday 22 June at the Kaeo Union Church Hall from 11am to 2pm for a Family Fun Day where you can enjoy the festivities, meet the amazing White Ribbon Riders and most importantly send a signal to everyone in our community, that we will not tolerate the violence any longer.” Hillary Sheard

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Phil Paikea

The White Ribbon Riders strongly believe that if our society is to be one in which we all thrive, then men need to stand up. The White Ribbon Campaign presents men as part of the solution and Phil Pikea from the Bream Bay Trust agrees. “It starts with personal responsibility and resonates outwards. We have a responsibility to our families, the people we work with, the mates on your team, our friends. If you as a man stand up and recite the White Ribbon Pledge – to never commit condone or remain silent about men’s violence to women (and children) then we can make a difference. The White Ribbon Riders are coming to this wonderful event to stand with Kaeo, not in judgement, but as men who want to support our brothers.” Phil Paikea

  • For further details of the event contact Hillary Sheard
  • The White Ribbon Riders will be leaving from and returning to Bream Bay with Friday and Saturday meals provided
  • To join the ride contact the Bream Bay Trust
  • Download the poster

RIDER INFORMATION – WHITE RIBBON KAEO RIDE  Saturday 22 June  2013

Contacts:

  • Jackson August – 0211386582
  • Phil Paikea – 0211210763

Aim:  Travel to Kaeo to support community in raising awareness to whanau violence. Meet with locals and other riders to share the kauapapa and to forge lasting friendships.

Route In General:

  • Ruakaka / Kawakawa / Kaeo / Overall kms to Kaeo 140kms – 2hrs 15 min

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Saturday 22 June

  • Briefing 8:30am at Bream Bay
  • Depart from Ruakaka Bream Bay Trust : 9:00am
  • Meet with mid north riders @ Kawakawa Caltex 10:30am
  • Arrive in Kaeo 11:20am
  • Depart Kaeo 2:00pm

Please remember, this kaupapa is drug and alcohol free

No gang patches or back banners to be worn while on the ride… all riders will ride under the white ribbon kaupapa, and will be known as the White Ribbon Riders. In saying that, the organisers acknowledge the mana of each group and independent riders that support this kaupapa.

Matariki Event to commemorate though who have passed away through child abuse or family violence

Matariki 2013 copyCandlelight Vigil – Friday 14th June – 5:30am to 9:00am at the Mangere Mountain

Please RSVP as there will be a light breakfast at the Mangere Hall after the lighting of the candles.

Matariki is known for reminiscing on our history our whanau of our bones. Matariki signals growth it is a time to prepare, it is a time of change, it is a time of action. During Matariki we celebrate what we have and what we have to give. Matariki is our Aotearoa New Year

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Tau Huirama

“Matariki is a time to rejoice and think about the transition of stepping into our Maaori new year. It is a time to learn from the past year and reclaim the better things in life that we have experienced and learnt from in life’s lessons and bring them into the present, and celebrate these successes and using these experiences it is a time to reclaim the future that we want for our families, the future where our wahine and tamariki are safe and where our wahine and tamariki are able to thrive.”

Tau Huirama
White Ribbon Ambassador
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David White

“There can be no harsher introduction into the world of family violence than having your daughter murdered by her husband, the man that you had given your daughters hand to, to love and cherish as you had in bringing her up. The expectation that he will care for her as you had. Then the naivety I lived in thinking she was safe, believing her assurances that she was OK. Those false days continue to haunt. Those warning signs casually ignored. The penalty is the way we live now. The penalty is that her murder could have been avoided and I will do all I can to save other parents from living the nightmare. I will continue to speak out and tell our story to help women get out of abusive relationships, to help men seek help, and to encourage others to step in where they see a problem. I believe that no man is free of family violence until all men are free. To that end I will go anywhere and talk to anyone to make our country safer, are you willing to walk with me?”

David White
White Ribbon Ambassador and White Ribbon Rider
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Marica Picot

“As a former sufferer of domestic violence, an ex-bully, an over-comer, a wife, a mother and a white ribbon rider, I’m involved in the white ribbon ride each year with my husband. Why, because I believe NZ is suffering from an epidemic of domestic violence and its time that we stand up and say ‘no more!’ Matariki is a time for new beginnings. Let’s make it the beginning of a culture of non-violence.

I belong to this kaupapa because I believe that ‘wahine are worth it!’ I was, and am worth it.”

Marica Picot
White Ribbon Rider
 
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download the poster

Download the Programme

Download the Programme

Event organised by the Safer Aotearoa Family Violence Prevention Network

Matariki sponsors

New television programme

Catriona MacLennan, Writer, Editor, Auther, project Director

Auckland barrister Catriona MacLennan

Barrister presents new television programme about animals Auckland barrister Catriona MacLennan is presenting a 13-part, half-hour programme about animal law and animal welfare on Sky Channel 83 from 8 May 2013. The series will cover issues such as the Animal Welfare Act 1999; the links between animal cruelty and domestic violence; teaching children empathy and the review of the Animal Welfare Act 1999.

  • Episode 2, screening on 15 April will discuss a programme to teach children empathy
  • Episode 3 screening on 22 April discusses the links between animal cruelty and domestic violence

Guests on the programme will include Auckland Crown Solicitor Simon Moore, who will speak about prosecutions under the Animal Welfare Act 1999 and sentencing in animal cruelty cases and Dr Brian Edwards, who will speak about his love of cats. RNZSPCA president Bob Kerridge will discuss his long involvement with animals and animal welfare and Associate Professor Annie Potts of the University of Canterbury will discuss hens, including their intelligence and ability to understand abstract concepts. Other topics include cultivating monarch butterflies, planting a butterfly garden and bee keeping. World-famous author, Jeffrey Masson, will speak about pigs. Senior lecturer at Unitec, Arnja Dale, will discuss the First Strike campaign and the links between domestic violence and animal cruelty.

The programme will screen on Wednesdays at 7.30pm for 13 weeks, beginning on 8 May 2013. It can be viewed on Sky Channel 83;  free to air in Auckland on Face Television (everyone in Auckland can get Face Television – viewers who have not watched the channel before need to tune for it); or online at www.scoop.co.nz or at http://www.livenews.co.nz

White Ribbon Campaign Luncheon Buffet and Auction

White Ribbon Campaign Luncheon Buffet and Auction 17th May 2013 – with guest speakers.
Tickets $15   Time: 12:00 – 1:30pm
@ MIT Marae – Wharekai, North Campus, Otara Road, Otara
For tickets and enquiries contact: Monika Kumar kuma664@manukaumail.com

 

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Support White Ribbon – Wellington

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The Ministry of Justice is supporting White Ribbon by Selling The Wellington edition of the Entertainment book. For each book sold $16 will be donated to White Ribbon. So go on, order your book now and support the White Ribbon Campaign. Send your order to Theresa Khatchian.

Download the order form here

Entertainment Book businesses

White Ribbon Ride 2013

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The 2012 Poster

This year we are streamlining some of the processes around the White Ribbon Ride. Registrations of Interest (ROI) will be considered by the campaign team and ride leaders at the White Ribbon Hui on 24-26 May. To assist us as we draw up the schedule, please complete the ROI form as soon as possible and send back to the campaign team prior to the 21 May. We will then be able to consider your proposed event as we put together the schedule. You don’t need to know the details of your event, but we do need to know that you wish to take part and whether other organisations are involved. The ride will take place around the 18-26 November 2013.

Down load the Registration of Interest (ROI).

 
 
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White Ribbon Campaign Report 2012

Chris Green and Rob McCann

Chris Green and White Ribbon NZ Campaign Manager Rob McCann

Chris Green, Executive Director for the White Ribbon Campaign UK visited New Zealand earlier this year and had this to say.

‘I see the New Zealand White Ribbon Campaign as taking the prevention agenda another step on the way to creating a world of respectful loving relationships. I will take lessons from your work back with me to improve our own activities in the UK.

While being a tourist in Franz Josef Glacier and in Westport I was delighted and inspired to see people wearing white ribbons and shops with white ribbon window displays, and to meet individuals, who, when I asked them, knew all about the campaign and the importance of engaging men to challenge violence against women.

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Download the White Ribbon Report 2012

Everywhere I visited there were ribbons and evidence of a campaign that reached right into the heart of communities.

This engagement is a testament to your well organised campaign and it was inspiring to meet with the White Ribbon Campaign Team and share ideas. I look forward to the opportunity to co-operate more closely in the future’. 

Chris Green
Executive Director
White Ribbon Campaign UK

Introducing new White Ribbon Chair Peter Boshier

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Judge Peter Boshier

Judge Boshier has been a member of the government’s Family Violence Taskforce for the past 6 years and was appointed a White Ribbon Ambassador in 2011.  He sees family violence in New Zealand as a significant problem and is an area of social change he is most committed to.

Judge Peter Boshier was born and educated in Gisborne and attended Victoria University of Wellington obtaining a Bachelor of Laws with Honours degree in 1975. After a period of practise in Wellington he was appointed as a District Court Judge with a specialist Family Court warrant in 1988.

Judge Boshier developed a particular interest in child and youth offending and was the author of a 1999 booklet, Child Offenders Manual- a practical guide to successful intervention with child offenders. In 2000 he travelled to Samoa as part of setting up the Manukau Youth Court Pacific Liaison Service and while there was bestowed with the Matai title of Misa.

Judge Boshier’s close interest in the Pacific continued in 2002, when he was seconded by the New Zealand Government to teach judiciaries in the Pacific.

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Judge Boshier signs the pledge

In 2004 Judge Boshier was appointed as the Principal Family Court Judge and held that position until late 2012. During this period he sought to open the court up so that its work was more accessible and more widely known.

Judge Boshier is currently a Law Commissioner with the New Zealand Law Commission, advising on aspects of law reform. In addition, he teaches a course at Victoria University of Wellington and for the Pacific Judicial development programme. In 2009 Judge Boshier was made a distinguished alumnus of the Victoria University of Wellington for his contribution to law. Judge Boshier continues to hold a warrant to sit as a District and Family Court judge.

From Peter Boshier

“I was honoured to have been made a White Ribbon Ambassador let alone asked to take on the role of chair on the advisory committee. For me, it’s an opportunity to further support a campaign that asks men to change other men’s perception of violence.

I grew up in a country that all too often glorified violence and brushed the devastation under the carpet. A serious assault against a woman was known as a ‘domestic’ and left to the family to sort while violence was often seen as a legitimate tool of persuasion – but those days are long gone. We now recognise the role the country has through such institutions as the Police, schools, hospitals, the It’s not OK Campaign and White Ribbon to eliminate violence against women. It is this effort alongside that of communities which must give us hope.

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Judge Boshier speaks at a White Ribbon Breakfast

“We acknowledge that violence in New Zealand affects not one demographic, but rather all communities. In New Zealand the costs associated with family violence are estimated at between $1.2 and $5.8 billion each year.1 That’s a staggering monetary amount, but the real costs are often in the lives that are damaged and forever marred from the experiences of both physical and the fear associated with non-physical violence.

“While this evil is perpetrated by both men and women, White Ribbon is proud that it stands as a campaign that speaks to men. It offers men the opportunity to take responsibility to end the violence and change the behaviour of other men.

“That’s not to say that all violence is perpetrated by men, but what White Ribbon as a campaign can do, is work directly through men such as the White Ribbon Ambassadors, White Ribbon Riders and the campaign team, to change the attitudes and behaviour of a section of our society. In marketing terminology, the campaign is targeted, and I along with the White Ribbon Committee stand by that decision.

“I’m honoured to have my role announced at the same time the campaign publishes the 2012 White Ribbon Report. Having read the document I am impressed by the breadth and depth of the campaign. The campaign team has worked alongside providers throughout the country increasing the campaign’s reach and enabling communities to raise awareness and take action.

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Download the 2012 White Ribbon Report

“There were:

  • 237 events in November (which represents a 20 percent increase from 2011)
  • 734 mentions in the traditional media during November, an increase of 120
  • 88,802 visits to the White Ribbon website in 2012, averaging over 240 per day
  • 7,100 Facebook friends with a reach that has exceeded 1.7 million people in 2012
  • 86 communities were visited by the White Ribbon Riders
  • 54 White Ribbon Ambassadors, many of whom publicly spoke out against violence towards women.
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Download the April Newsletter

“While there’s no one simple cure to end what is a plague in our country, I believe that White Ribbon is making a difference. It is one part of a long-term solution that must and does involve a whole-of-government approach, along with its role to inspire communities to act as agents of social change.

“I look forward to the 2013 campaign and am excited as White Ribbon continues its journey towards becoming an independent entity outside of government. As those before me have said, White Ribbon is not just a campaign; it’s a movement of change. I hope you’ll join us as we make that change possible.

Judge Peter Boshier
 
[1] Snively, Suzanne, The New Zealand Economic Cost of Family Violence (1996)

All Whites v New Caledonia – March 2013

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crowd salute the players as they leave the pitch victorious

In 2010 New Zealand Football and the New Zealand Professional Footballers Association (NZPFA) partnered with White Ribbon – a campaign offering men the chance to be part of the solution to end violence against women – which became the All Whites official cause.

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Since then, former All White and Sky Commentator Harry Ngata has become an ambassador, and in 2012 a White Ribbon Cup was introduced.

‘This partnership has been very exciting because it’s not driven from a commercial imperative’, says Chief Executive New Zealand Football Grant McKavanagh. ‘The idea came from the players themselves, who saw an opportunity for football to help tackle one of the most serious issues in our country.

‘One-in-three women will experience partner violence at some point in their lives1 and that’s a staggeringly high number. Within the All Whites team structure there are over 25 men in the unit, they all have mothers or partners, female friends, colleagues and many now have daughters. Statistically, that violence will have affected a number of our team – now expand that group and include football payers across the country, add in the families of those players and the number that may have been affected by violence in our community is so large it’s hard to comprehend.

‘We know too many people say ‘it doesn’t affect me’ and we as a team and organisation don’t believe that’s good enough. As men, we’re taking responsibility for raising this issue and working with the White Ribbon Campaign towards solutions,’ says Mr McKavanagh.

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Harry Ngata at work

White Ribbon Ambassador Harry Ngata explains, ‘For me it’s about legacy – not just  my Dad’s work, but also about the sort of role models sportsmen can be, and the sort of influence they can have when they stand up for up for what is right.

‘You don’t have to experience violence to understand just how terrible the effects can be on women, and children. It’s easy to see the bruises and the broken bones, what people often don’t understand are the effects of non-physical violence.

‘Where once there was a bright a bubbly person, violence can rob that individual of their spark leaving them living in constant fear, suffering from anxiety or depression and this can then lead to alcohol, drug abuse or poor health.

‘If we can influence just one man and put them on a different path then I’ll be happy. We know our players can reach people so we want to utilise that opportunity and our partnership with White Ribbon. Men, including our All Whites and management, can be an example, wearing the white ribbon to show that we will never commit condone or remain silent about violence towards women,’ says Mr Ngata.

NZ Football will be announcing further initiatives with White Ribbon later in the year.

[1] Snively, Suzanne, The New Zealand Economic Cost of Family Violence (1996)

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